From: Charles McGarvey Date: Thu, 14 Jul 2016 21:16:11 +0000 (-0600) Subject: clean up for presentation X-Git-Url: https://git.brokenzipper.com/gitweb?a=commitdiff_plain;h=refs%2Fheads%2Fmaster;p=chaz%2Ftalk-how-to-deal-with-introverts clean up for presentation --- diff --git a/.gitignore b/.gitignore index dd3066f..0ed8f1b 100644 --- a/.gitignore +++ b/.gitignore @@ -1,2 +1,4 @@ *.tif /.cs_workspaces +/remark.min.js +/slides-offline.html diff --git a/Makefile b/Makefile index abb6d9c..83def77 100644 --- a/Makefile +++ b/Makefile @@ -6,7 +6,7 @@ DOT = dot dotfiles = $(shell find . -iname '*.dot') svgfiles = $(patsubst %.dot,%.svg,$(dotfiles)) -all: $(svgfiles) +all: offline clean: rm -f slides-offline.html remark.min.js $(SLIDES).pdf $(svgfiles) diff --git a/css/slides.css b/css/slides.css index f5d7356..5de754e 100644 --- a/css/slides.css +++ b/css/slides.css @@ -1,12 +1,33 @@ +#slide-blank-stare img { + width: 500px; +} + +#slide-happy-to-stay-home img { + display: inline-block; + width: 300px; +} + #slide-dilbert-energy-drain img, #slide-dilbert-programming img { width: 100%; } +.my-story blockquote { + font-size: 1.2em; +} +.my-story blockquote:before { + content: none; + display: none; +} + +#slide-open-office img { + display: inline-block; + width: 70%; +} + #slide-last .talkqr img { display: inline-block; width: 230px; - height: 230px; } diff --git a/img/blank-stare.jpg b/img/blank-stare.jpg new file mode 100644 index 0000000..93f617a Binary files /dev/null and b/img/blank-stare.jpg differ diff --git a/img/captain-picard-day.jpg b/img/captain-picard-day.jpg new file mode 100644 index 0000000..20cec64 Binary files /dev/null and b/img/captain-picard-day.jpg differ diff --git a/img/extreme-happiness.gif b/img/extreme-happiness.gif new file mode 100644 index 0000000..876d240 Binary files /dev/null and b/img/extreme-happiness.gif differ diff --git a/img/funny-dance.gif b/img/funny-dance.gif new file mode 100644 index 0000000..9c19f8d Binary files /dev/null and b/img/funny-dance.gif differ diff --git a/img/new-office.jpg b/img/new-office.jpg new file mode 100644 index 0000000..a819329 Binary files /dev/null and b/img/new-office.jpg differ diff --git a/notes.txt b/notes.txt index 734da61..9f439a4 100644 --- a/notes.txt +++ b/notes.txt @@ -9,9 +9,15 @@ And how to deal with extroverts What is introversion? Extroversion? Stories -A word about hiring and onboarding +A word about hiring and onboarding? Statistics about introversion +- Answer "What is introversion?" +- Develop an understanding of why people act as they do. +- Learn ways to cope with your own introversion. +- Identify the challenges inherent in working with introverts. +- Explore practical ways to effectively deal with introverts. + ## Abstract Business requires people working together, and that often brings people of @@ -40,7 +46,7 @@ Speaking of Picard, what a great example of an effective introvert. See clip of Picard trying to relax on shore leave but women are talking with him because Riker gave him a trinket that is culturally significant. -Separate the condition with the apparent or supposed results. +Separate the condition from the apparent or supposed results. - It's not aspergers or autism. - Rage quitting and abusive nerds online. - Social awkwardness. @@ -58,23 +64,23 @@ It's good to try to be more well-rounded. Try to put yourself out there, but understand your effective limitations. Building meaningful relationships is cool. +Introverts need extroverts and visa versa. We compliment each other. A world +without extroverts would be quite dull. + Introverts don't need to be coddled. Certain individuals (introvert or extrovert) may feel they need that, but introverts don't inherently need that. In fact that may be very anti-productive. Because of the energy requirements of introverts, they do need special consideration, that's true. But not coddling. -One of the most cringeworthy concepts for an introvert is breaking out of +One of the most cringe-worthy concepts for an introvert is breaking out of one's "comfort zone." This phrase is bandied out constantly, but little time is spent considering whether or not doing so has real benefits that the person should care about. It may be beneficial, but we all seem to have this assumption that we all should be breaking out of our comfort zones, but should we really all be striving to do that? Yes and no. -Try not to put introverts "on the spot". You'll likely get a blank expression -in return. Seed the discussion beforehand. Send out a list or summary of -things to think about before a planned meeting and make sure they know what -will be expected of them. +### Deadlines Don't rush introverts. When you ask them a question that they don't immediately know the answer to, you may get a blank expression that may make @@ -90,6 +96,24 @@ right brain lift brain differences. Introverts can be very creative. Although an introvert may effectively fill my roll, some things may simply be done better by an extrovert. +Introverts can handle complexity, but they do better when they can focus on +one or two areas. More than this, and there is risk that the introvert will +become overwhelmed and then be less effective. + +### Communication + +Even though an introvert may be bad at face-to-face communication, they may do +just fine at other types of communication. Email, intranet chat, things like +that are much less stimulating and give introverts plenty of time to gather +their thoughts and formulate proper responses. + +Introverts can be so good at those types of communication, you may not even +realize they're introverted. (Until you meet them face to face. Then it may +become painfully obvious. It's like: you were so articulate and well-spoken in +your email, and here you can barely string two sentences together!) + +### Meetings + In a meeting or other social setting, it's not unlikely to find the introverts there may seem to not be participating. What may be happening is that they may be having deeper thoughts than the extroverts. This does take time, though, so @@ -112,37 +136,93 @@ sit back and let the extrovert say everything. While some introverts may even be fine with extroverts getting all the credit, you should be aware that many those ideas may have come from the introvert. +Try not to put introverts "on the spot". You'll likely get a blank expression +in return. Seed the discussion beforehand. Send out a list or summary of +things to think about before a planned meeting and make sure they know what +will be expected of them. + +### Atmosphere, office stressors + +Stimulation (note steril slides). + Some introverts may be prone to not remembering "trivial" details... such as people's names. If you struggle with this, work on it. Sometimes you see somebody but you just don't care enough to actually see them. Start to care. -Introverts need extroverts and visa versa. We compliment each other. A world -without extroverts would be quite dull. +## About Me Most of what I know about how to deal with introverts I learned from how my boss and coworkers deal with me. -## About Me +I wouldn't say that my story is unique at all. -I am not in HR. I'm actually a software developer, but I learned of and then +I am not in HR. I'm actually a software developer. I learned of and then became interested in understanding introversion when I was at a point in my life where I was trying to understand myself. When I was growing up, I was often frustrated that I wasn't more like my extrovert peers. I enjoyed and had -fun with my friends -- fortunately my friends enjoyed many introverted -activities -- but I noticed that I had many personality traits that were -considered undesirable at the time. Unfortunately, I often made the mistake of -caring what my peers thought of me, and that had some effect on my self -esteem. Actually, I made the far-more foolish mistake of believing in and -caring what I *thought* my peers thought of me. - -My experience made me uncomfortable being me, which is awful because I wasn't +fun with my friends -- fortunately for me, my friends enjoyed many introverted +activities -- but I also enjoyed (read: needed) down time, and I was ashamed +of that difference. That was at least one part of my personality that +I identified as an undesirable trait. + +Unfortunately, I often made the mistake of caring what my peers thought of me, +because all kids do care about that, and that had some effect on my self +esteem. It was worse than that, though: I made the far-more foolish mistake of +believing in and caring what I *thought* my peers thought of me. + +My life experience made me uncomfortable being me, which is awful because I wasn't about to be anyone else. After I realized how silly I was being by putting so much weight behind what others may have thought about me, my discomfort left -and I was able to be happy again. I think this experience, to varying degrees, -is shared by many people of a variety of personality types, but (introvert -suicide rates). If you can relate to the experience I shared and are still -clinging to the false idea that your value should be so closely tied to what -others think of you (or what you imagine others think about you), please let -go of that notion! This is the most important thing you could take away from -this presentation. +and I was able to be happy again. + +I think this experience, to varying degrees, is shared by many people of +a variety of personality types. If you can relate to the experience I shared +and are still clinging to the false idea that your self-worth should be +unhealthily tightly coupled with what others think of you (or what you imagine +others think about you), please let go of that notion! This is the most +important thing you could take away from this presentation. + +But don't mistake me: I'm not saying that you should have no care at all for +what other people think of you. That would also be a sad and unfortunate way +to live. As with most things, you need a balance. Caring how others regard you +will help you accept criticism when it is founded, and the balanced +perspective will help you reject baseless criticism. + +For all the introspecting that introverts are supposed to be doing, they can +be really bad at viewing themselves accurately. Poor self-esteem affects +introverts and extroverts alike. It's often caused by bad assumptions going +in, so even introverts can't come to more enlightened conclusions by +themselves. Thoughts like "I am not a good person" attach themselves deeply +within the mind, and once they grab hold they're hard to shake. + +So, bottom line: if you are not comfortable in your own skin, make a change. +Get a new perspective. If you are introverted, there are simple things that +you can do to "manage" your introversion. +- First, learn and understand how you function. +- Stay on top of your schedule so you don't run out of energy. If you know you + will be around people, compensate be carving out time in your schedule to + rest up. +- Know your limits, and don't feel bad by saying "no" to some social events. + +## Quotes + +"What a lovely surprise to finally discover how unlonely being alone can be." +-- Ellen Burstyn + +Unlike extroverts, who were their personalities on their sleeves, introverts +often keep their best to themselves. With extroverts you see what you get. +With introverts, what you see is only a portion of their personality. The +richest and most trusted parts of an introvert's personality are not +necessarily shared with the outside world. It takes time, trust, and special +circumstances for them to begin to open up. +-- Otto Kroeger and Janet Thuesen from "Type Talk at Work" + + +Disclaimer: I like introverts and extroverts equally. Seriously. Now, I'm +going to be talking introverts up a little bit during this presentation, and +in case I don't give equal time to both type's good and bad qualities, I just +want it to be clear that they're both great. Both types have different +strengths and different weaknesses, but they actually complete each other, as +corny as that sounds. The world is a better place because of both introverts +and extroverts. diff --git a/slides.html b/slides.html index f912e3e..5e5c8b2 100644 --- a/slides.html +++ b/slides.html @@ -8,13 +8,56 @@ name: title Charles McGarvey +??? +- I work at Bluehost as a software developer. +- I don't really have any background in psychology. +- Most of what I know about how to deal with introverts I learned from how my friends, family, and + coworkers deal with me. + - I am an introvert. + - In other words, I extrospect the actions of others and how they relate to me in order to + understand my own introspecting nature. +- I'll talk a little bit more about me towards the middle of my presentation. + +- How many of you think you're introverted? +- How many of you think you're extroverted? + --- ## Agenda - Answer "What is introversion?" -- Talk about communication. -- Explore practical ways to effectively work with introverts. +- Develop an understanding of why people act as they do. +- Learn ways to cope with your own introversion. +- Identify the challenges inherent in working with introverts. +- Explore practical ways to effectively deal with introverts. + +??? +- Define introversion +- Use our defined terms to better understand why people act as they do. +- Learn ways to cope with introversion (if you are introverted). +- Identify and solve workplace issues that may hinder introverts. + +--- + +class: center, middle + +## Disclaimers + +??? +### I like introverts and extroverts equally well. + +- I may not give both types equal air time. +- I am an introvert and have that bias. +- I know and respect many extroverts a ton. +- Both different strengths and weaknesses. +- Both complete each other. +- World is completed by having the two types. + +Also, + +- I will be making some broad generalizations. +- I know not everyone fits in the box I'm going to ascribe to them. +- I otherwise don't actually expect to say anything offensive. --- @@ -32,6 +75,24 @@ Charles McGarvey Source: [Merriam-Webster Medical Dictionary](http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/introversion) ] +??? +### Introverts are selfish, right? +- Introverts are self-centered, self-occupied, self-obsessed, self-serving selfish people. +- At least we're not usually exhibitionists. +- I think this description is not necessarily unfair. Introverts are kinda selfish. +- At least, I can see why introverts may be perceived as such. +- Why don't introverts speak up and share their ideas during meetings and conversations? + - Maybe they're not team players? + - Maybe they're keeping the best ideas for themselves? + - Maybe they don't like us? + - Nobody really knows what they're thinking because they never speak up, so it's anybody's best guess. + +-The bottom line is that introverts are just hard to work with, right? + +- People work in and across businesses by working together. + - They communicate. + - Barriers to communication are frustrating because it wastes time. + --- class: center, middle @@ -43,6 +104,482 @@ name: dilbert-energy-drain DILBERT © 2013 Scott Adams. Used By permission of UNIVERSAL UCLICK. All rights reserved. ] +??? +### Let's continue defining introversion + +- How many of you understand what Dilbert is talking about here? + - Raise of hands -- don't worry, I won't be calling on anyone. + +- By the way, those who are fans of Dilbert may have noticed the mouth. Scott Adams usually doesn't + draw Dilbert with a mouth unless he is eating or in great distress. There are relatively few + comics of Dilbert with a mouth, and this one has the mouth twice. + +--- + +## What is introversion? + +> The strongest distinguishing characteristic of introverts is their energy source: Introverts draw +> energy from their *internal world* of ideas, emotions, and impressions. They are energy +> conservers. They can be easily overstimulated by the external world, experiencing the +> uncomfortable feeling of "too much." [...] They need to limit their social experiences so they +> don't get drained. +> +> -- Marti Olsen Laney, pg. 19 + +??? +### Better definition + +- Nine years ago, read book by Marti Olsen Laney, a doctor of psychology, called "The Introvert + Advantage" +- This description of introversion resonated with me. +- It's still the way I like to think about introversion, both in an abstract sense as well as in + practical terms in "managing" my own introversion. + +STORY + +- I am a team lead at my company. +- That means that get to solve technical problems and write code +- It's also my responsibility to lead, manage, and mentor other developers. +- A lot of my non-coding time is spent in meetings and working with my teammates. +- I help them gain knowledge, and make sure they have what they need to succeed. +- Some days I get to code all day; I lock the door and program! I love those days. +- Other days I'm working with my teammates all day and don't write any code. +- I love those days, too, but there is a huge difference in the level of mental fatigue I feel at + the end of each type of day. +- On the days that I spend all day working on complex programming problems, I get home and feel great. +- On the days that I spend all day working with people, I'm totally wiped out. +- Can any of you relate to this? + +--- + +class: center, middle + +## Introverts and Extroverts + +#### There is a biological difference. + +??? +- I really don't know much about how brains work, but I do understand that personality and + temperament doesn't come from nowhere. Personality develops, but it's also not something + completely environmental. Brains of introverts and extroverts actually work slightly differently, + and it's not a learned difference, it's a biological difference. + +- The difference may have something to do with neural pathways and neurotransmitters, making + introverts more sensative to Dopamine and thus more prone to getting overstimulated by less + stimulus than is required for extroverts. + +- I don't know how settled the science is in this regard. Let me just say that according to my + research and best information right now, there are at least partially understand biological + differences between introverts and extroverts. + +- I bring it up because understanding is the first step to identifying and solving problems. + +--- + +class: center, middle + +## Human personality spans many spectrums. + +Introversion/extroversion make up one of those spectrums + +??? +### Another perhaps-obvious point + +Human personality spans many spectrums. It isn't black and white. You're not really either an +introvert or an extrovert; you exist somewhere in between. + +--- + +## Differences between Introverts and Extroverts + +1. Energy creation +2. Response to stimulation +3. Approach to knowledge and experience + +??? +### Dr. Laney defined three differences + +- Introverts gain energy from inside themselves, by being alone and recharging by themselves ("down + time") while extroverts gain energy from social interaction and other external stimulii. + +- Introverts retreat inwardly from too much stimulation. Extroverts run the risk of being + *under*stimulated and need to get enough stimulation externally to not get too bored. + +- Introverts go for depth of knowledge in particular fields that interest them. Extroverts go for + a breadth of knowledge, learning perhaps as much information but in more areas. + +--- + +## What *isn't* introversion? + +- Abusive nerds on the Internet +- Aspergers +- Autism +- Social awkwardness +- Social anxiety (shyness)* + +??? +Separate the condition from the apparent or supposed results. + +- It's not aspergers or autism. +- Rage quitting and abusive nerds online. +- Social awkwardness. +- Depression, [social] anxiety, stress, shyness, energy level, self esteem. +- Aloofness, selfishness, stuck up, self-absorbed. + +There are studies that indicate a positive correlation between introversion and social anxiety. This +may possibly be explained by the fact that extroverts just get more experience talking with people. + +Despite introversion not necessarily being associated with these particular conditions, that are +difficult to deal with, introversion by its nature does create a need for some special +consideration within organizations. + +--- + +class: center, middle + +## So, how *do* we deal with introverts? + +--- + +class: center, middle + +## Ignore them! + +??? +### Ignore them + +- "Ain't nobody got time for that!" +- Introverts are slow and don't communicate very well. +- Maybe don't hire them or just try to avoid them. +- Introversion is not a Title VII protected class. +- I'm not aware of any companies that do or have ever tried to do this. +- This isn't viable for tech companies or any organizations really. +- By some recent studies, as much as 50% of people are introverted. +- How can there be that many introverts? Well, remember that our personality actually exists + somewhere along a spectrum. Also, many introverts just learn to act like extroverts; from + a young age they mimic social behavior around them and may never realize they're introverted. + +-- +No. + +??? +### Yeah, that's just silly. + +--- + +class: center, middle + +## Go all in[troverts]! + +??? +- So, if we can't ignore them, should we prefer them? + +- The trouble with that, is extroverts are valuable. Extroverts have tons of valuable skills. + +- Also, there's not a lot of conclusive evidence to suggest that introverts work better with other + introverts than with extroverts. There may be fewer interpersonal conflicts, but there also can be + a lot of communication *not* actually happening. + +- Extroverts are really good at facilitating conversation. + +-- +No. + +--- + +class: center, middle + +## Learn to get along! + +??? +- Let's instead keep both introverts and extroverts and instead learn how to communicate and get + along with each other. + +- Then we can keep the advantages of both types! + +-- +Yes!! + +--- + +class: my-story + +## Dealing with your own Introversion + +??? +I wouldn't say that my story is unique at all. + +I learned of and then became interested in understanding introversion when I was at a point in my +life where I was trying to understand myself. When I was growing up, I was often frustrated that +I wasn't more like my extrovert peers. I enjoyed and had fun with my friends -- fortunately for me, +my friends enjoyed many introverted activities -- but I also enjoyed (read: needed) down time, and +I was ashamed of that difference. That was at least one part of my personality that I identified as +an undesirable trait. + +Unfortunately, I often made the mistake of caring what my peers thought of me, because all kids do +care about that, and that had some effect on my self esteem. It was worse than that, though: I made +the far-more foolish mistake of believing in and caring what I *thought* my peers thought of me. + +My life experience made me uncomfortable being me, which is awful because I wasn't about to be +anyone else. After I realized how silly I was being by putting so much weight behind what others may +have thought about me, my discomfort left and I was able to be happy again. + +-- +> Stress is caused by inconsistency between a person's belief and their actions. It is also the gap +> between what a person wants to do or feels like he or she needs to do and what that person is +> actually doing or able to do. + +??? +I think this experience, to varying degrees, is shared by many people of a variety of personality +types. If you can relate to the experience I shared and are still clinging to the false idea that +your self-worth should be unhealthily tightly coupled with what others think of you (or what you +imagine others think about you), please let go of that notion! This is the most important thing you +could take away from this presentation. + +But don't mistake me: I'm not saying that you should have no care at all for what other people think +of you. That would also be a sad and unfortunate way to live. As with most things, you need +a balance. Caring how others regard you will help you accept criticism when it is founded, and the +balanced perspective will help you reject baseless criticism. + +For all the introspecting that introverts are supposed to be doing, they can be really bad at +viewing themselves accurately. Poor self-esteem affects introverts and extroverts alike. It's often +caused by bad assumptions going in, so even introverts can't come to more enlightened conclusions by +themselves. Thoughts like "I am not a good person" attach themselves deeply within the mind, and +once they grab hold they're hard to shake. + +So, bottom line: if you are not comfortable in your own skin, make a change. Get a new perspective. +If you are introverted, there are simple things that you can do to "manage" your introversion. + +-- + +- Learn and understand how *you* function. + +??? +There's no point being an introvert if you're not going to actually introspect, so choose to study +more about how you work. If this presentation is the first time you've learned about introversion, +then this is a good start, but there is a lot more that you can learn about yourself. + +-- +- Stay on top of your schedule so you don't run out of energy. + +??? +- If you know you will be around people, compensate be carving out time in your schedule to rest up. +- Try to keep an energy reserve in case you need it for unexpected events. + +-- +- Know and respect your limits. + +??? +This one may be a bit controversial, but I think it's true. +- People like to think they're unlimited, but people have limits -- yes, they do -- and it's not bad + to acknowledge that if you're honest with yourself. +- Don't feel bad by saying "no" to some social events. + +-- +- Work outside of your "comfort zone" on your terms. + +??? +Now, I don't particularly like the phrase "comfort zone." It's bandied around constantly, but little +time is spent considering whether or not doing so has real benefits that the any of us should care +about. It may be beneficial, but we all seem to have this assumption that we all should be breaking +out of our comfort zones, but should we really all be striving to do that? Yes and no. + +- To the extent that we get personal growth out of stepping outside of our "comfort zones," then it + is worthwhile. +- To the extent that being outside of our "comfort zones" makes us hate our lives, then it's not + a good thing. +- So, we should be striving for personal growth, but we can do that growth on our own terms. Usually + when somebody brings up "comfort zones," it's because they're trying to get you to do something, + maybe out of good intentions, but you're smart enough to make a conscious decision for yourself + whether or not stretching yourself at that time will be good for you or not. + +--- + +class: center, middle +name: picard + +![captain picard day](img/captain-picard-day.jpg) + +Source: [The Pegasus](http://memory-alpha.wikia.com/wiki/The_Pegasus), Star Trek TNG + +??? +- This is my favorite introvert. +- There are actually a lot of awesome introverts that have risen to prominence and even become + role-models to many. I'm not going to talk about them, but it's fun to watch people and look for + signs that may indicate where they're at on the introversion/extroversion spectrum. +- My favorite example of an introvert is a fictional character. The writers of Star Trek TNG did + a fantastic job at creating and developing this interesting yet very introverted character. There + are signs that Sir Patrick Stewart himself may lean toward introversion, and that may be why he + was also able to play the part so well. +- Anyway, this is Captain Picard putting on a not-entirely-convincing smile for "Captain Picard Day" + on the Enterprise. His duties on this day include meeting with children on the ship and judging + their class projects. +- By the way, Captain Picard Day is a real thing, I recently found out. Apparently it's celebrated + on June 16th of each year. + +- How many of you introverts have found yourself in a similar position? Out of energy but still + putting on a smile at a social event, hoping your smile is at least somewhat convincing? + +--- + +class: center, middle + +## Put Into Practice + +??? +Introverts don't need to be coddled. Certain individuals (introvert or extrovert) may feel they need +that, but introverts don't inherently need that. In fact that may be very anti-productive. Because +of the energy requirements of introverts, they do need special consideration, that's true. But not +coddling. + +These things are meant to create an environment or the right conditions to make it more likely for +introverts to succeed and be happy in the workplace. + +Some of these things can simply be added to your processes or routines in order to get the benefit. + +However, to the extent that any of these things conflict or interfere with the needs of extroverts +or take away from the conditions that allow extroverts to succeed, some compromise will need to be +reached. + +--- + +## Communication + +-- +- Let people choose how they communicate with you. + +??? +Even though an introvert may not be at her best during face-to-face communication, she may do just +fine at other types of communication. Email, intranet chat, things like that are much less +stimulating and give introverts plenty of time to gather their thoughts and formulate proper +responses. + +Introverts can be so good at those types of communication, you may not even realize they're +introverted. (Until you meet them face to face. Then it may become painfully obvious. It's like: you +were so articulate and well-spoken in your email, and here you can barely string two sentences +together!) + +--- + +## Meetings + +-- +- Don't put introverts on the spot. + +??? +Try not to put introverts "on the spot". You'll likely get either a blank expression in return or +much fumbling of words. + +-- +- Seed the discussion. + +??? +- This may be general good advice for anyone leading a meeting. +- Seed the discussion with enough context and detail to make sure everyone is on the same page. + +-- +- Send out a list of things attendees should think about and plan before the meeting. + +-- +- Make sure everyone knows what will be expected of them. + +??? +- Goes back to the idea that introverts don't appreciate being put on the spot. + +-- +- Encourage introverts to write down their ideas. + +??? +In a meeting or other social setting, you'll likely find the introverts there may seem to not be +participating. What may be happening is that they may be having deeper thoughts than the extroverts. +This does take time, though, so they're probably lagging behind in the conversation, and by the time +they have something really interesting to say, they may find the conversation topic has moved on, so +they may not ever share their thought. + +You can either ask at the end of the meeting if the introverts in the room have anything to add +about anything discussed, or maybe just tell them to email their ideas later, perhaps after they +have had even more processing time. + +-- +- Leave gaps in your conversation. + +??? +Introverts don't like to interrupt people, and sometimes extroverts engaging with each other fail to +leave gaps in the conversation in which introverts feel like they can interject. Again, not all +introverts have this issue, and some that do have it have trained themselves to interact more like +extroverts in social settings. + +This may not work very well at first, so you may need to experiment and see what works to help your +introvert(s) engage you more in conversation. + +-- +- Sometimes it's a good thing when introverts don't talk. + +??? +Introverts don't feel the need to say something unless it's important AND isn't already being said, +so if extroverts happen to be covering all the important points in the conversation well enough, +introverts may be content to sit back and let the extrovert say everything. So, if introverts aren't +talking, that may be a sign that everything is cool. + +--- + +## Deadlines + +-- +- Don't rush introverts. + +??? +Don't rush introverts. When you ask them a question that they don't immediately know the answer to, +you may get a blank expression that may make you think that there is no thinking going on there, but +they are thinking. Just be a little patient and you'll get a response eventually. If you're an +introvert put on the spot, try to make some sort of indication that you are thinking and will +respond. "Give me a second to think about that..." + +-- +- Limit the number of projects placed on introverts. + +??? +Introverts can handle complexity, but they do better when they can focus on one or two areas. More +than this, and there is risk that the introvert will become overwhelmed and then be less effective. +So keep the number of projects reduced. Introverts will still do good work on their projects, but +they'll be less likely to feel overburdened. + +--- + +class: center, middle +name: open-office + +![open-office](img/new-office.jpg) + +.copyright-disclaimer[ +[Office in London](https://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:New_office.jpg) © 2009 Phil Whitehouse. This file is licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 2.0 Generic license. +] + +--- + +## Atmosphere + +-- +- No open office design! + +??? +- Bad idea, Google! +- It's just a bad fad that needs to go away sooner rather than later. + +-- +- Reduce stimulation. + +-- +- If you can, create private cubicles AND a common area for knowledge transfer. + +??? +Stimulation (note steril slides). + +Some introverts may be prone to not remembering "trivial" details... such as +people's names. If you struggle with this, work on it. Sometimes you see +somebody but you just don't care enough to actually see them. Start to care. + --- class: center, middle @@ -54,6 +591,10 @@ name: dilbert-programming DILBERT © 2015 Scott Adams. Used By permission of UNIVERSAL UCLICK. All rights reserved. ] +??? +- In the end, we introverts really aren't that complicated to work with, right? +- Our needs are simple. Let us write code and create designs and manage servers in peace! + --- class: center, middle @@ -85,9 +626,26 @@ Leave me feedback, if you want: ## Credits .left[ +- Excerpts from [The Introvert Advantage](http://hiddengiftsoftheintrovertedchild.com/about-the-author/the-introvert-advantage/) by Marti Olsen Laney, Psy.D. - DILBERT comic strips created by [Scott Adams](http://dilbert.com/), used by permission. ] ] +--- + +class: center, middle +name: blank-stare + +![blank stare](img/blank-stare.jpg) + +--- + +class: center, middle +name: happy-to-stay-home + +![extreme happiness](img/funny-dance.gif) + +"It's Saturday night, and I'm staying home!" +